How I Wish I Were The Fairy Job Mother Who Could Simply Grant Wishes!

fairy job motherWouldn’t it be wonderful if I were the Fairy Job Mother who could simply grant wishes? 

But I’m not that Fairy Job Mother.  I think she retired in 1929. You are the closest we can get.  It is your career after all.  And you know where you are, where you want to go and which steps will take you there.  

Here’s something you can do NOW that can ensure your career for years to come.

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Job fairs, online applications or recruiters do NOT fill 75-85% of all jobs.  But none of us have learned in school how to find a job in a way that we manage and control and which will serve us well the rest of our careers.  Since, as a recruiter, I know both sides of the job search, I can show you how to find and choose the companies you will want to work in, the people you will want to work with and how to be known by the people who will hire you.

Can you relate to this?

Once upon a time, in your grandfather’s or great grandfather’s time, it was possible to start working for a company straight out of school and retire 30 or 40 years later with a gold watch and a pension.  But not now  Now we are doing well to stay with the same company for five years before having to change companies to move up the corporate ladder or even to just keep working.  In some industries, a two-year stay is doing well.

None of us receive lessons in looking for work.  Our education is all about the core skills we need, not where and how to put them to use.  Networking is a skill that can be taught as well, but we are not taught that either.  And in this economy, no job is proof against lay-offs.

What some of my clients have said

Liora Engel-Smith   “Connie gave me excellent and detailed advice regarding entering the work force (via LinkedIn).”

Mark Zawadzki “Connie gave me clear direction and a plan that made sense. She has the ability to listen, understand the situation and sum it up quickly, and provide recommendations for moving forward. Connie was a valuable resource and I highly recommend her for anyone in search of a new position, career or contact.” (via LinkedIn)

Mike van Horn “I’m impressed with Connie’s business model. She has carved out a niche in a very competitive industry that meets the specialized needs of her clients and plays to her strengths.” (via LinkedIn)

Juliet Philips “I had contacted Connie when searching for jobs and I was very impressed with how quickly she responded. She took the time to explain and guide me through the process and gave me meaningful insights on how to go about finding a job that I want. She is someone I would recommend to all my colleagues.” (via LinkedIn)

Dan Biondi “A friend and colleague referred me to Connie for help with my search. Connie responded immediately, gave me a useable road map and advice regarding a senior level executive search. She is patient, considerate, and quite easy to engage in conversation. I came away from one conversation with meaningful insights on how to structure my personal search strategy. I will recommend Connie to anyone who has a problem that needs to be solved by a new view from an outside the company executive.”  (via LinkedIn)

Orest Hurko, MD “Remarkably thoughtful, generous and wise. Received a cold call from me when I was just starting a search, and patiently guided me through realities of finding employment — most of which had nothing to do with her services or that of any other headhunter. Though we had never met, her genuine concern was helping me out, not scoring a new client. Not many people would do that. And it worked. Excellent advice.” (via LinkedIn)

Do You Believe in Magic?


By Duff Watkins, Cornerstone International – Australia

Guest Blogger

As an executive search consultant (a “head hunter”), I’m regularly asked what’s the best way for a person to find new employment and as a former psychotherapist, I’m always wondering why  the truth doesn’t sink in.

A surprising number of adults believe in magic when it comes to searching for employment.  Too many people are “mired in myth” when it comes to job-hunting.

Beware of these 6 myths that produce misery!

1) Recruiters find jobs for people.

No. Recruiters find people for jobs not jobs for people.  In the world of executive search the cold reality is, if you’re good at your work, and if your skills are currently being sought, you’ll be found whether you’re employed or not.

2) Recruiters are always looking for candidates.

False. Executive search is an exercise in research not chance.  Getting a job by simply sending your unsolicited resume to an executive search firm is about as likely as getting hit by a piece of Halley’s Comet.  Recruiters do not spend much time with people who cannot purchase their services because recruiters are busy either completing their assignments or selling their services to potential clients.  Failure to do either is commercial suicidal.

3) “Head hunters” can help.

Maybe, but it largely depends on whether you have a good personal relationship with the consultant.  A recruiter’s task is to sell his services to potential clients and then complete assignments on behalf of those clients.  Your task is to find a job that suits you.  Unless there is a genuine benefit to the consultant to speak or meet with you, why should they?

4) Consultants know where all the job vacancies are.

They don’t.  Nobody does.  Consultants –when they’re fortunate enough to get the work– handle few assignments at any time.  For every 1 job vacancy being handled by a consultant, there are probably 80 being filled through other means.  Fact: 80% of all job vacancies are unadvertised.  You’re just as likely as a recruiter to discover job vacancies if you look.

5) Recruitment companies have many jobs “on their books”.

There are no “books”; there are no “jobs”; there are only job vacancies, some of which a consultant may know about, and a few of which they may handle.  Consultants do not have a stockpile of job vacancies which they dole out parsimoniously to unemployed people.

6) Somebody else can tell you the work for which you’re best suited.

Your life, your career, your interests and your job search is your responsibility and no one else’s.  No recruiter, “head hunter” or consultant is competent to direct your life.

Here are 5 non-magical ways of seeking employment successfully:

1) 40 Hours a Week.

Most people simply have no idea how much work is required to obtain a job.  Getting a good job requires effort: 40 hours (minimum) per week.  If you’re not investing that amount of time, you’re wasting it.  There is no substitute for “hard yakka.”

2) 20 seconds / 50 words

Before calling a consultant, make sure you have something to say.  If you can’t say in 20 seconds (or less) and 50 words (or less) exactly what work you want to do and where you want to do it, then you haven’t thought deeply enough about your career.

3) Construct A Network

“Networking” (ie, establishing and using personal contacts) is essential when seeking new employment.  The network of people who can help you in your job search is constructed not inherited.  You’re not born with it; you have to go out and meet the people you need to know.  Is this easy?  No, if it was easy everyone would already have the job they want.

4) Give The Takeaway

In marketing terms a “takeaway” is what you want the other person to take away from meeting you. Your “takeaway” is your distinguishing characteristic; it’s why others will remember you; it identifies what you can do for them.  In commercial terms, it is the reason why employers may want to meet with you, interview you or hire you.  If you can’t identify your “takeaway,” you haven’t done your homework.

5) Magic = Tragic

If you believe that worthwhile employment will magically come your way through the efforts of any person other than yourself, you’re tragically mistaken.  Belief in such magic is really a reluctance to think for one’s self.  Job seekers who believe in magic think that it’s easier for everybody but them.  They think that getting a good job is a matter of luck, fate, karma, planetary alignments, being young enough, being old enough, having the right connections etc. The truth is, it’s mostly a matter of working hard and smart.

Do you believe in magic?

The Psychological Bottom Line is this:  some people refuse to think deeply about what they want from work (or life) because it’s too difficult.  And it is difficult!  It can be extremely difficult to figure out what you really want from work or life.  It would be great if someone else could figure it out for you and then tell you what to do.  Truth is, no one can help you until you decide what you really want to do.  That’s the “bad news.”

The “good news” is that deep down in your heart you already know exactly what you want.  

It’s just buried, hidden, concealed from consciousness, therefore you can’t articulate it– yet.  The trick is to drag your deepest desires up to the surface of your awareness.  There are several ways of doing this but here’s the simplest: sit down, think hard, and write down what you enjoy doing.  Until you’re clear on that, there’s little point in asking consultants for advice.

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